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Is It Hot 🔥 in Here? Or is it Just You?
This week on Love Is…, we’re continuing our Sexual Seasons series—and this one’s bringing the heat. We’re talking Sexual Summer, baby! Think raw hunger and spontaneous quickies. It’s that can’t-focus, can’t-wait kind of energy that won’t leave you alone. We’re conditioned to associate summer with youth, but I beg to differ. In this episode, I’m breaking down: Why summer might not come until you’re over 40 (which is a beautiful thing). What to do when your partner’s not in summer with you....
💌 What do you hear?
Close your eyes for a moment. What do you hear? I want you to listen, not to the obvious things, but to the often overlooked language of aliveness. The breath of the room. The sigh that escapes your chest when you finally sit down to rest. The quiet rustle of fabric against your skin. Over the years, I have grown hypersensitive to sound, so much so that I don’t always appreciate it. But lately, I have amplified my attention to the symphony of noises around me. The low, velvety rasp of my...
💧Wisdom in Water
April 18, 2025 | ISSUE 11 Last night, I watched an ice cube melt. It clinked against the glass—defined, bulbous, square, with firm edges. Then slowly softening. Dissolving and disappearing into what it had always been. That’s how I see spirit. It takes form. Becomes a body. Tree. River. Human. Held for a spell, in the shape of something solid. Yet always, it is water, never forgetting how to return to itself. I think of myself as spirit in solid state. Not separate, but momentarily distinct....
When the Breeze Feels Like Foreplay
Today’s Love Is... episode kicks off a special four-part series I’m calling Sexual Seasons. Sexuality moves through phases, just like nature. Each phase has its rhythm and flavor. Shall we begin with Sexual Spring? 'Tis the season of reawakened desire. When your skin prickles to life and you begin to feel everything. A gentle breeze. Wafting scents. Passing glances. Click to Subscribe + Listen Spring is playful. Unpredictable. Sometimes confusing. But it’s also glorious—especially after a...
Unsexy Turn-Ons 🔥
We might be limiting the possibilities in how we think about arousal. It’s not always about lace and low lighting. Sometimes arousal is spurred by a freshly folded towel. Or the sound of a well-timed I already took care of it. When your partner does laundry without being asked. Or the thrill of hearing the dishwasher hum to life after dinner, because they saw the mess and handled it. Not for validation. Just because. Some other unsexy things that turn me on… When you listen —the first time....
BONUS: Love That Calls You In
This is a little bonus minisode I had to share while the feeling was still fresh. It’s about the kind of love that doesn’t fix — it holds. The kind that doesn’t shame — it calls you in. The kind that doesn’t keep you company in the dark — it helps you find the switch. Click to Subscribe + Listen And if you’re ready to stop betraying yourself in the name of being nice, needed, or helpful… Me, Again is that kind of calling in. That kind of love. Applications close tomorrow. Apply Now. xo,
The Subtle Ways We Disappear Without Knowing It
This week on Love Is…, we’re talking about self-abandonment. Not the hashtag version. The everyday, seemingly simple but often repeated moments where we override what’s true. In this episode, I’m dropping gems about : ✨ What self-abandonment looks like in real life ✨ The childhood roots of shrinking to be loved ✨ A relationship story I’ve never shared publicly ✨ And why healing starts with noticing Click to Subscribe + Listen If you’ve ever smiled when you wanted to cry, said yes when your...
Honesty Is a Sensation
There’s a line from an India Arie song that’s been singing in my heart for years… “You’ll know the truth by the way it feels.” Years ago, I dated someone who lied all the time. More than little white lies. I’m talking about full-blown, performative, curated storytelling. Lies to big himself up.Lies to hide insecurity.Lies to control how I saw him. He didn’t do it to hurt me. His lies weren’t about me at all. He just didn’t trust himself. Which meant he couldn’t believe I could accept the real...
I Used to Flinch When Someone Offered to Help 😮💨
In this week's episode of Love Is..., I’m unpacking something tender and true: the resistance we feel when someone offers us care, love, or support—and how it messes with our nervous systems. We’re exploring: Why “I’ll do it myself” can feel safer than softness. The hidden cost of always being the strong one. And why learning to receive is actually the most radical relationship shift you can make. I also share a story about a client who couldn’t orgasm with her partner because she couldn’t...
Morning Light ☀️
Morning is my favorite time of day. There’s something about the stillness that feels electric, like the world is holding its breath. A quiet invitation.A front-row seat to the sunrise. Yesterday, after meditation, I resisted the pull of my phone. Instead, I sat cross-legged on the floor by the window. The world was hushed. The sky shifted in slow, deliberate strokes—deep blue, violet, and the softest gold. Not quite night. Not yet day. The space between what was and what will be. I’m not...
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